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Nov 24 16 8:00 PM

Stamos wrote:
So basically his warnings were made because he opened a new thread about an existing topic?
It's not really a crime now is it... At least not to my eyes because it doesn't really bother me.
And yeah, Gawain has talked about his boyfriend and all, I don't really think he can be homophobic laugh.gif
All in all, my conclusion is that all this has been a silly misunderstanding.


Just because you add "lol" at the end of an insult, it doesn't mean you can get away with it. There are several ways of throwing shade at someone without being disrespectful. You can either be Mariah or Nicki, is up to you to choose :-) I have already said before that this place is like high school, and you need to toughen up. Sometimes people are harsh, rude, sometimes they cross the line and get offensive and they need to be called out. I don't know Gawain so i didn't know he was gay. Still, I know that he's not like besties with carlosbfly and if he had a problem with the way carlosbfly handled the situation, he should have addressed it with another way. Like I've said, the temporary ban was too much, but it doesn't mean what he did was right. Plus the extra thread was completely uncalled for

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Nov 24 16 9:32 PM

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CoryCoolDangerous wrote:
Carlos man you are out of line. Let's be real here, your actions are simply to assert your power and control on this board because someone had the balls to poke fun at you and you feel like your "power" was disrespected. Get over it. If you found it offensive all you needed to do was post "hey Gawain I really find that offensive" and I guarantee you that would have been the end of it for him. You can justify it all you want but your power trip is very transparent.

And to make comments like "get this topic back on topic. Last time I'm going to say it." I mean wtf am I being scolded by my dad for not doing my homework? You are so condescending sometimes that it's unreal. You take this messageboard WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYY WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY too seriously.

Don't you have the power to delete posts? As a mod, just delete the posts that aren't relevant to the topic. Closing the thread because you want to "punish" the board? Seriously, get over yourself. This is a FAN SITE for crying out loud. You make it miserable.


Can he be a mod?


Who, me? lol

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Nov 25 16 3:01 AM

I am more of a lurker here but I would like to add my two cents after I read said thread where this went down. I always read the housewives thread and there is so much shade in that thread that when I read Gawain's comment, I laughed and thought nothing of it until I read a couple more posts. I will say that I thought the ban was a bit too much in my eyes especially coming from Carlos himself as he was "under attack." I have seen it mentioned once in this thread and I believe only once, but I feel another mod should have stepped in and decided what the appropriate thing to do is. The problem right now is that this is all personal. If the outcome of the 3 day ban was done by another admin/mod, I think this issue might be a mute point. When it comes to personal issues and not posting rules that he did offend, another mod really should have resolved this issue. I'm not involved or even pay attention to the day to day politics of the board, but I can see why people are saying dictator like comments. Not that I see or think that, but as I've said had this situation been handled by another mod, I don't think the board would be in this predicament

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Nov 25 16 3:46 AM

dwhite725 wrote:
I am more of a lurker here but I would like to add my two cents after I read said thread where this went down. I always read the housewives thread and there is so much shade in that thread that when I read Gawain's comment, I laughed and thought nothing of it until I read a couple more posts. I will say that I thought the ban was a bit too much in my eyes especially coming from Carlos himself as he was "under attack." I have seen it mentioned once in this thread and I believe only once, but I feel another mod should have stepped in and decided what the appropriate thing to do is. The problem right now is that this is all personal. If the outcome of the 3 day ban was done by another admin/mod, I think this issue might be a mute point. When it comes to personal issues and not posting rules that he did offend, another mod really should have resolved this issue. I'm not involved or even pay attention to the day to day politics of the board, but I can see why people are saying dictator like comments. Not that I see or think that, but as I've said had this situation been handled by another mod, I don't think the board would be in this predicament
And, as far as I know, that is the entire attraction of the show so it is suitable to that particular thread (unless of course it is truly malicious and people are honestly being offended) - however, do I think or like that that kind of behaviour, talk, gifs etc filters through to other areas of the board? No. I don't like it at all, *personally* because it's not something I myself consider entertaining or entertainment nor is it a way in which I would find interesting to converse in. But I scroll through it and keep it moving. Is it an issue that needs to be addressed? Maybe. And issues/topics are something we will be looking at for members to bring up in the future to discuss with each other and admins. So, we will leave it and I'm sure, plenty of other topics until then.

It is the intent and context which must be considered when someone is calling someone else a name etc as to if it can be deemed offensive or just a misunderstanding, etc. But people also need to be aware that not everyone converses in that manner or is at all familiar with the majority of those terms.




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Nov 25 16 5:37 AM

I don't think the Housewives thread is a suitable example. There's no personal insults in there, it's just banter. So I don't see it as a fair comparison.

And to the point about this thread being completely unnecessary, at face value that's subjective however the deeper discussions has, I hope, at least given opportunity for everyone to tell their side and opened up a dialogue that wasn't there before.

I think the key thing for all parties is that no one is 100% right all of the time and no one is without some blame. The admins have admitted this, and so have some of the other posts (like Mario admitting he has played the victim in the past). If we all own our stuff we can address it when it's next an issue hopefully.



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Nov 25 16 11:59 AM

re-Gawain comment

The recipient read it as an insult and slur. Throwing a "lol" at the end to make it more of a joke shouldn't matter. This is like basic harassment policy or conduct rules. A temporary ban seems appropriate.

The rest...it seems like there's more going on than Gawain's ban, and since I don't participate in FOMM"s clique scene, I'll leave it at that.

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#127 [url]

Nov 27 16 8:48 AM

Eamon for President.

There is clearly favoritism here, BeyondIdolization has been offensive to so many people on here but he always gets a pass no matter what and that IS a fact.

Absolutely disgusting.

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Nov 27 16 10:14 AM

Did the 3 days pass?


I hope it was made clear to him that the ban was only temporary.. 

  
  

Last Edited By: mcfan Nov 27 16 10:38 AM. Edited 1 time.

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Nov 27 16 7:25 PM

ShayneFly wrote:
mcfan wrote:
Gawain never reads his PMs..
He obviously communicates via PM. He likely would've been notified of my PM via email as well.

So he never reads mine?

  
  

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Nov 27 16 7:31 PM

mcfan wrote:
ShayneFly wrote:
mcfan wrote:
Gawain never reads his PMs..
He obviously communicates via PM. He likely would've been notified of my PM via email as well.

So he never reads mine? laugh.gif

Ooh. Not getting into that possible scandal! smiley: laugh

I'm sure he will be back soon enough. A few days away, he'll have a new massive campaign ready to roll, I'm sure! Maybe we lost him and Stella snatched him up smiley: laugh

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Nov 27 16 8:27 PM

Just my two cents concerning the procedures of all this.
After a few days, I still find very inappropriate that a ban came from the same mod that happens to be the "victim". Another mod should have stepped in and taken care of the situation.
While I can see why Carlos got offended in the circumstance, I didn't really like the way he handled his power. Being involved in first person, he should have reported the thing to another mod.
Coming from the "victim", the ban sounded more like a "now you'll see who you're talking to" demonstration of power.


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Nov 28 16 4:53 AM

mcfan wrote:
ShayneFly wrote:
mcfan wrote:
Gawain never reads his PMs..
He obviously communicates via PM. He likely would've been notified of my PM via email as well.

So he never reads mine? laugh.gif

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I guess he's kind of like me at work. Not interested in socialising. Business only. #notheretomakefriends smiley: laugh



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Nov 28 16 8:39 AM

He has replied! 


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