These kind of suggestions aren't going to happen so to save us time, if you can confirm that's not what the expectation is, we are happy to continue exploring how we can better communication and feedback.
The board absolutely needs rules and moderation but it's the direction of the moderation that is the problem. I also want to make it clear that my objective in giving my opinion on this issue last night was not to bully or attack anyone. Both Carlos and David attempted to paint myself and others as bullies and hypocrites for voicing our opinion on the current moderation and how this board should be run going forward.
My opinion on Carlos is not personal. I am criticising his use of the power he has as a moderator/administrator. When other debates have ensued regarding the state of FOMM nowadays and why things are quieter, I wanted to address the moderation but I always felt I would not be given a fair hearing because of how he reacts when there is any perceived criticism of his position. I don't feel Carlos currently has the requisite skills to moderate this board fairly, equally and to a degree impartially, which I know is hard given the nature of message boards.
He often speaks to people in a condescending and patronising tone like we are all stupid children who need to put in our place. I stated my opinion last night and I was told he had resolved more issues between forum members that I have had hot dinners and that my goal was to paint the admins as lazy do nothings. That was never my objective.
His biases towards certain long standing members are obvious and rule breaches on their part have been overlooked because of these long time friendships. That would be fine if the same applied for everyone but Gawain's ban was clearly an abuse of his position because Gawain finally wanted to stand up for himself.
I believe a moderators role is to make sure the board runs smoothly first and foremost. That means they should delete the posts, threads they believe are spam and are off topic and maybe then PM members to let them know opening several threads isn't necessary without publicly humiliating members by scolding them for what they are doing. They should apply the rules of the board. Not meddle in debates in an attempt to act as a dispute resoluter, which I've seen Carlos do several times. The whole point of forums is discussion and heated debates occur. Debate shouldn't be stymied and pushed in the direction a moderator see's fit. Its only when a debate becomes personal and full of personal attacks that a moderator should intervene. Yes they absolutely should play a part in resolving issues between members if the members want that but it should be done in private. Fundamentally though, moderation is about applying the rules and handing out warnings and bans when those rules are broken by any member, regardless of how long they have been a member.
I'm not going to speak on the issues you have with Carlos. He has the right of reply.
However, in reference to the bolded text, first and foremost - yes, I agree. But members have to also bring their part to the table as well. Some posters go out of their way to publicly humiliate other posters and admins as well - even when we aren't involved in a conversation, some posters find a way to bring up a dig or a snide remark against us and it's happened many time before. I'm just using this as an example for it having to work both ways. Not that I'm saying it's a tit for tat thing but, just wanted to put that out there as well that what members ask of us, they must be willing to committ to as well and vice versa.