carlos b fly wrote:
carlos b fly wrote:Do you realise how patronising you sound and often sounded in your replies in this thread?
I did, as I've clearly said. I don't have to repeat myself on this matter do I? Even more so to also get an even more berating PM. This was the straw that broke the camels back and was in violation of three T & C's, which were all very clearly spelt out to Gawain during my much more civilised reply. This was made clear and is frankly, a conversation between myself and the other party, nobody else.
Let me stop you right there. Right there.
You wanna know what's really patronising?
That not once have you even attempted to think the other person (ie; me) in this conversation could actually have some feelings? "Bitter queen" was not said with any affection in this instance. It was an insult, you know it, I know it, we know exactly the tone and context it was being used in this incident, so lets not mess about. And yes, lets NOT patronise. You haven't once in this conversation even tried to say to me "I could understand why that may have been considered hurtful or insulting from your side, as you did not throw any kind of insult at the other party". You have not done this once.
If the tables were turned, I would at least try to also understand your emotional perspective on it, even if I didn't agree.
Actually I did. In my first reply I said "If you found what Gawain said to be offensive Carlos, then that's fair."
The broader issue I'm attempting to address is, whether or not offensive behaviour that warrants a warning or a ban, what you personally deem it to be? Or are you applying the forum definition of what is offensive behaviour? There's a lack of transparency around this.
Over the years we've seen varying the degrees of personal attacks on people that might not be offensive to one person but are to another. These have often gone completely unnoticed or brushed aside because of the seniority and popularity of certain members. My motive here is just that we all be held to the same standards and rules.
I and others don't find what Gawain said to you to be offensive. You are offended. But surely you being offended can't be a benchmark of whether someone deserves a ban? There has to be some level of objectivity in the rule making of this forum.