ArabianLamb wrote:
Thanks for all the advice guy, I know where you all are coming from.
The thing is, my current boyfriend is a great guy, just he isn't the usual guy I date, I mean I am usually dating the "bad boys" my current
boyfriend is anything but bad, he is laid back and fun however the guy I am lusting for is like my exes, total spunk total bad boy. His name is Darnell, the
guy who I am craving for, last night he was over because we are good friends, his fiance doesn't mind and neither does my b/f cause they think we're
just good mates. Anyway we talked for like 2 hours, I even admitted to him I get along with him more than my current boyfriend nowadays.
I totally get the point, if he leaves his fiance then the chances are he'll probably cheat on me too but the connection is there and his looks isnt the
only reason why I find him attractive, he is such a great guy personality wise too.
Here is what I always tell people; your "type" isn't working for you, so look elsewhere. I have so many friends who say someone
isn't their "type," yet they have dated that same type for years with no long-term success. If this guy reminds you of past boyfriends and those
relationships haven't worked out, then why pursue this one?
Now, it seems clear you want to do something with this guy, and if nothing else you need to get it out of your system. So, either break-up with the current
boyfriend and pursue this new relationship, or stay with your boyfriend but be honest about having feelings for this other guy and see if your boyfriend minds
you exploring them. But in my opinion, cheating in secret should not be an option.